He would write and rewrite, and even construct a paragraph or a whole chapter, in order to secure a more lucid and satisfactory arrangement. It is well to remember that few things we say are of such importance as to require emphasis. On all sides we are subjected to voices that are disagreeable and strident. Choate must certainly be reckoned among the best conversationalists of our time. It is a business asset. Quite properly people resent inquisitiveness. He is self-satisfied, for in his own opinion he has never lost an argument.
Carlyle was a great talker, and talked much in protest of talking. He twists, turns, and diverges without the slightest inconvenience to himself. A musical quality of voice depends chiefly upon directing the tone towards the hard palate, or the bony arch above the upper teeth. T A L K E R S A N D T A L K I N G Conversation is not a verbal nor vocal contest, but a mutual meeting of minds. They do not wear their feelings nor their greatness on their sleeves.
His greatest quality in speaking is his manifest sincerity, and it is this particularly which has ingratiated him in the hearts of his countrymen. Therefore frankly and faithfully examine your important opinions before giving them expression. He is an expert embellisher. We must show habitual consideration and kindliness towards others if we would attract them to us. Deliberate utterance will give the necessary opportunity to replenish the lungs, so that the speaker will not suffer from unnecessary fatigue.
If you observe an unwillingness in the other person to be convinced by what you say, you had better turn to another subject. He is a brave and bold talker. Aspirated voice, in which some of the breath is allowed to escape unvocalized, is injurious to the throat, and unpleasant to the listening ear. Moreover, your own opportunity to speak will shortly come if you have patience, when you may reasonably expect to receive the same uninterrupted attention which you have given to others. Remember always that your greatest ally is truth. Besides most people are sensitive about their shortcomings, and prefer to get help and counsel in private. T Y P E S O F T A L K E R S There is no greater affliction in modern life than the tiresome talker.
The best way to cultivate the rare grace of judgment is to be mindful of your own faults and to correct them with all speed and thoroughness. Therein lies the key to successful oratory. It is not well to ask many questions, and then only those of a general character. A person of charming manner is usually free from resentments, inquisitiveness, and moods. Take special pains to enter into the minds and feelings of others. Reticence is one of the most essential conditions of long friendship. Brimming with practical tips on how to get your point across, this book is a must-have for anyone who wants to be a better communicator.
The first dut of a man is to s eak; that is his chief business in this world; and talk, which is the T H E A R T O F T A L K I N G The charm of conversation chiefly depends upon the adaptability of the participants. His talking has a soporific effect. The first thing to keep in mind is that we should speak through the throat and not from it. Good conversation demands restraint, adaptability, and reasonable brevity. But if there is no suitable opportunity to say it, put it back in your mind where it may improve with age. He demolishes every idea in his way. He is what is known as a smooth talker.
He always begins at the wrong end. There is an interesting account of an evening's conversation between Emerson and Thoreau. He was the evangelist of golden silence, and though he did not apparently practice it himself, his genius will never diminish. There is no better way to cultivate your own conversational powers than to train yourself first to be an interesting and sympathetic listener. It enhances the pleasure and quality of conversation to speak in deliberate style. Do not be always setting other people right. He is reluctant to leave it.
They tighten the muscles of the throat and mouth, instead of liberating these muscles and allowing the voice to flow naturally and harmoniously. Such phrases may be classified according to their particular application,—to business, politics, music, education, literature, or the drama. Be careful not to give unsolicited advice. If you cannot abridge a story to reasonable dimensions, it would be better to omit it entirely. Deliberate speaking confers many advantages, not the least of which is increased pleasure to the listener.
Ploddingly and perseveringly he zigzags from one point to another. Keep your desires and feelings from over-coloring your views. You may successfully refute him, but he holds firmly to his own ideas. When there is nothing worth-while to say, the best substitute is silence. He goes over the ground again and again lest you have missed something.
There is nothing more disconcerting to a speaker than to observe the listener impatiently waiting to plunge headlong into the conversation with some marvellous tale. His manner, both in conversation and in public speaking, is singularly gracious and winning. It is not advisable, therefore, to lay down arbitrary rules to govern talking, but it is believed that the suggestions offered here will contribute to the general elevation and improvement of daily speech. The best way to cultivate the rare grace of judgment is to be mindful of your own faults and to correct them with all speed and thoroughness. He talks right on with no idea of objective or destination. Conversation is like lawn-tennis, and requires alacrity in return at least as much as vigor in service. Some have an utter distaste for anything like personal display.